Today's guest is Wendy Maltz, author of The Sexual Healing Journey. Her book is about how to recover from sexual trauma and deepen your capacity for. In this interview with Wendy Maltz, an internationally recognized author, sex therapist and a licensed clinical social worker, she talks about sexual trauma and. This classic self-help book offers sound and detailed guidelines for sexual healing. Wendy Maltz stands out for her remarkable combination of wisdom, crea..
During the course of her three decade career, Maltz has written numerous books, chapters and articles on sexuality and. This classic self-help book offers sound and detailed guidelines for sexual healing. Wendy Maltz stands out for her remarkable combination of wisdom, crea.. In this interview with Wendy Maltz, an internationally recognized author, sex therapist and a licensed clinical social worker, she talks about sexual trauma and.
The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexu and millions of other books are available for Amazon Kindle. The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse, 3rd Edition Paperback – June 12, The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of. Today's guest is Wendy Maltz, author of The Sexual Healing Journey. Her book is about how to recover from sexual trauma and deepen your capacity for. In this interview with Wendy Maltz, an internationally recognized author, sex therapist and a licensed clinical social worker, she talks about sexual trauma and.
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Thanks for telling us about the problem. Return to Book Page. Considered a classic in its field, this comprehensive guide will help survivors of sexual and improve their relationships and discover the joys of sexual intimacy.
Wendy Maltz takes survivors step-by-step through the recovery process using groundbreaking exercises maltz techniques. Based on the author's clinical work, interviews, and workshops, this guide is filled with Considered a classic in its field, this comprehensive guide will help survivors of sexual abuse improve their relationships and discover the joys maltz sexual intimacy.
Based on the author's clinical work, interviews, and workshops, this guide is filled with first-person accounts of women and men at every stage of sexual healing. Maltz compassionate resource helps survivors to: Identify the sexual effects of sexual abuse.
Eliminate negative sexual behavior and resolve specific problems. Gain control over upsetting automatic reactions to touch and sex. Develop a healthy sexual self-concept.
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May 26, Carlie rated it it was amazing. This wendy has changed and life. I was definitely reading it at the right time, a time when I sexuality ready to face what happened to me and find healing.
There are so many ripples in my life now that I didn't realize were related to the waves of abuse that happened over 20 years ago. I let go of a lot of burdens while reading this. Highly recommend it. Jun 03, Miklos rated it really liked it.
This book is very readable, comprehensive, and is for individuals and couples. The problem lies more in the details than anything else. Maltzs position on pornography is sex negative "erotica is okay, pornography is not", Her book "The Maltz Trap", etc. I had difficulty teasing apart this book sexuality Maltzs clinical positions, and because of that, felt that while this book is very helpful for treating wendy trauma, it should be only one of many and available to clinicians and survivors.
Nov 11, Jaclyn Goss rated it really liked it Recommends it for: Victims of sexual assualt. A very well written book about sexual healing Do not read if you do not wendy a lot of time on your hands! It gave me to access blocked memories, sexuality I hadn't remembered. So when I say time, I mean emotional time. Definately a book you will revisit, and one you should buy rather then check out or borrow, due to it's nature to emotionally shock you.
Plan wendy reading this slowely, I bought it four years ago, and I still haven't finished it. Healing takes time.
Chapter on learning possitive touch is A very well written book about sexual healing Do not read if you do not have a lot of time on your hands! Chapter wendy learning possitive touch is a bit over the top, and seems more relevant for people who have had a very recent assault, or otherwise someone who hasen't had a sexual relationship since the assualt. Nov 09, Michaela rated it it was amazing.
This should be a bible for people who have been through some sexual trauma. I was sexually abused as a child by my grandfather, rapes by my boyfriend at age 17, and later raped by friend at age 25, and this book covered almost every confusion, thoughts, emotions and behaviors I've ever had and have. Very helpful tips on and to re-learn healthy sexual life. Jun 10, Brandon rated it it was amazing. A great resource for those that are in a relationship, but may still suffer from past sexual trauma.
This can wendy read by those not in a relationship, but the focus really maltz on healing a relationship. I recommend this highly. Aug 11, Alessandra sexuality it liked it Shelves: healing. I decided to pick this book up when I was ready maltz confront what had happen to me I had reached a really low point, was and depressed than I wanted to admit and didn't think I was worthy of anything.
This book helped me tremendously. It helped me realize that I really needed to become aware and learn to love myself. It taught me awareness and techniques that have been working to help me better cope wendy intimacy. For awhile, even the idea of a man touching me sexuality me. I pushed men so far I decided to pick this book sexuality when I was ready to and what had happen to me I pushed men so and away so I didn't have to face my own intimacy problems. This booked helped me so much, I honestly can't sexuality enough about it.
I'm excited to continue my sexual healing journey. And I feel like this book set me on the right path to being healed. I now no longer feel the need to constantly call myself a victim, but rather, a survivor. While this book did provide me with a lot of eye opening moments that helped me understand a lot of what I do, Maltz wish it went into detail more on certain topics.
I also feel like the author focused a lot on incest survivors and and was never really specified any where. Jun 25, Hester Rathbone rated it it was amazing Shelves: my-office. I read this book for work, obviously, but I honestly loved every minute of it. As odd as it is to say, the basis of it isn't so much sexual relations although that's certainly part of itit's getting people to learn to pay attention to their own needs and levels of comfort or discomfort, as well as practicing communicating those needs to the people in their lives - a skill which we all struggle with from time to time.
I think that this book is so well written that even people who have never I read this book for work, obviously, but I honestly loved every minute of it. I think that this book is so well written that even people who have never experienced a sexual trauma or difficulty would benefit from it.
I think that there's a lack of communication and understanding in most couples in terms of how they experience intimate relationships and how they process things that their partner asks of them.
It's difficult to know how to begin the dialogue between people - this is a great first step. I think that most people would be able to start taking the small steps needed to open those doors, and succeeding at those first steps is what will give them a sense of security that they continue having the conversation. Oct 20, Caroline rated it it was amazing Shelves: counseling. Such a great, valuable read. From beginning sexuality end, Maltz thoroughly covers the topic of reclaiming your healthy sexuality following sexual abuse.
While this book is certainly most useful for survivors of sexual abuse, their partners, and the clinicians who work with them, her discussion of healthy sexuality should be a must-discuss in every sex-ed classroom. Too frequently when we talk maltz sex and sexuality, we only focus on the mechanics and negative consequences of unhealthy sexuality.
Her chapter on healthy sexuality completes this picture to give a full idea of what it means to be sexual in a positive, nurturing way. You go, Wendy Maltz. Oct 16, Maggie Millar rated it it was amazing. Sometimes part of healing is learning that maltz are not alone and the things we feel are normal things for us as survivors to feel. I wasn't going to add this book to my reading list because I wasn't sure I wanted my friends to know that I've read this.
I soon realized how hypocritical that was of me.
Step by step precedures on how to ground and establish safety with partners I recommended it to clients who had done therapy work on PTSD and were ready to take the next step on establishing healthy boundaries with their partners A classic.
A great resource for victims of sexual abuse that helps them to reclaim a part of themselves as it relates to a sense of intimacy with their partner. I highly recommend this to those that may want to start their self-healing journey and to the partners of victims so they can better understand what they are going through.
Jun 24, Angel huge fan of all things Totoro rated it it was amazing Shelves: beautiful. It is so worth getting. Nov 07, Buzz H. Useful, but very hetero-centric. Jul 17, Anna rated it it was amazing Shelves: counseling-psychology. Read this book for a sex therapy class research project. This is a very readable, well organized text, accessible to the layperson. She uses examples drawn from case studies and her own life.
I would recommend this to laypeople as well as all Read this book for a sex therapy class research project. I would recommend this to laypeople as well as all types of mental health practitioners.
As a trauma therapist working with many people who have survived sexual trauma I highly recommend this book to survivors, partners of survivors and those who provide therapy. This book had good insights, exercises, and survivors stories. Very insightful. Fantastic book for clients coping with childhood abuse and it offers healthy exercises for couples as they attempt to be sexual in the face of trauma triggers.
These exercises are in addition to the typical sensate focus work of Masters and Johnson and help to build trust with clothes on. The truth I liked the honesty and hope this book has to offer. Nothing candy coated. I sincerely felt very alone prior to reading this book.
Finding out others suffer and heal was rewarding and inspiring. Apr 22, Reginna Lopiccola rated it it was amazing. Amazingly helpful book. I don't know where I'd be without this book. Mar 26, Elizabeth rated it it was ok Shelves: bought , spirituality , womens-studies , sex , self-help-psych , boxwomens-studies.
There are no discussion topics on this book yet. Readers also enjoyed. Self Help. About Wendy Maltz. Wendy Maltz. Books by Wendy Maltz. Trivia About The Sexual Healin No trivia or quizzes yet. Quotes from The Sexual Healin As he reclined on a couch in his lovely home, Don told Barbara about the joys and difficulties in his life.
He talked of past struggles with drug and alcohol abuse and work addiction. Then he spoke of his relationships with women—how exciting and attractive he found them. I could see his energy rise and his breath quicken as he spoke. An air of intoxication seemed to fill the room. Don said his problem was he liked women too much and found it hard to be with one special partner over a long period. He would develop a deep friendship and intimacy, but then his eyes would wander.
I thought to myself, this man has been sexually abused! His problems sounded identical to those of adult survivors I counsel in my practice. Then it happened. Don grinned back at Barbara. He cocked his head to the side; a twinkle came into his blue eyes. The next day I wrote Barbara Walters a letter, hoping to enlighten her about the sexual abuse of boys. The sexual contact was exploitive and premature, and would have been whether the twelve-year-old was a boy or a girl.
This past experience and perhaps others like it may very well be at the root of the troubles Don Johnson has had with long-term intimacy. Acknowledging past sexual abuse is an important step in sexual healing. It helps us make a connection between our present sexual issues and their original source.
Some survivors have little difficulty with this step: They already see themselves as survivors and their sexual issues as having stemmed directly from sexual abuse. A woman who is raped sees an obvious connection if she suddenly goes from having a pleasurable sex life to being terrified of sex. For many survivors, however, acknowledging sexual abuse is a difficult step. We may recall events, but through lack of understanding about sexual abuse may never have labeled those experiences as sexual abuse.
We may have dismissed experiences we had as insignificant. We may have little or no memory of past abuse. And we may have difficulty fully acknowledging to ourselves and to others that we were victims. It took me years to realize and admit that I had been raped on a date, even though I knew what had happened and how I felt about it.
I needed to understand this was in fact rape and that I had been a victim. I needed to remember more and to stop blaming myself before I was able to acknowledge my experience as sexual abuse. It conveys the idea of unlimited sexual access to women, children, and men. Pornography exploits the people who act in it as well as the public who buys it. It uses sexual stimulation to make money, reinforcing the commodity view of sex.
Pornography evokes strong emotions, such as fear and shame, and encourages sexual arousal to abusive ideas and images. Pornography often depicts sex from the perspective of someone who has unsafe, impulsive, compulsive, and extreme sexual interests.
It frequently perpetuates destructive and false impressions about sex. People are reduced to objects that are used for stimulation and that can be controlled by other people. Staged scenes in porn can make sexual violence and humiliation appear pleasurable, increasing our tolerance of coercion in sexual relationships.
The sex in porn is typically devoid of genuine affection, respect, responsibility, and connection. And without these pillars of healthy sex, it tends to reinforce a type of sex that can never fully satisfy.
Wendy Maltz is an American sex therapist , psychotherapist , author , educator , and clinical social worker. She is an expert on the sexual repercussions of sexual abuse , understanding women's sexual fantasies , treating pornography -related problems, and promoting healthy sexuality. Maltz graduated from the University of Colorado-Boulder with a bachelor of arts degree in Psychology. She has been married to Larry Maltz, a sex and relationship therapist, since They live and work in Eugene, Oregon and have two grown children.
Maltz is a licensed clinical social worker in Oregon and a licensed marriage and family therapist in California. She became a certified sex therapist in and was awarded the status of Diplomate of Sex Therapy in with the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists. On October 25, Maltz received the prestigious Carnes Award from the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health for her "outstanding work in the field of sexual addiction.
Maltz began her career as a therapist providing sexuality education in schools, counseling survivors of sexual abuse, and conducting sexual enrichment programs for pre-orgasmic women. Maltz was also influenced by advancements in women's rights and sexual freedoms. In an article in Contemporary Sexuality , she explained, "I'm passionate about empowering women and men to overcome silence and unnecessary shame about sexual concerns. Maltz has developed models for understanding healthy sexuality.
Maltz, Maltz has been a keynote presenter, featured speaker and workshop presenter at psychology and sexuality conferences in the United States, Canada, and New Zealand.
She presented a keynote address at the Utah Coalition Against Pornography on pornography problems and healthy sexuality that was made available online by UCAP in During the course of her three decade career, Maltz has written numerous books, chapters and articles on sexuality and sexual recovery topics see Bibliography.
Her first book, Incest and Sexuality: A Guide to Understanding and Healing coauthored with Beverly Holman, , was the first book to address the sexual problems caused by incest and remains a professional classic. Maltz developed sex therapy techniques for survivors called "relearning touch exercises" that are designed to slowly and progressively increase skills, such as breathing, relaxing, staying present, communicating, and expressing and receiving affection during touch.
An article in the Pandora's Box Newsletter March featured a detailed description and illustration of the "Drawing on Body" exercise. Maltz has researched, lectured, and written about women's sexual fantasies and sexual arousal. This seminal work includes the categorizing of women's sexual fantasies into "scripted" and "unscripted" and additional breaking down of fantasies into more specific subcategories i. She has described various positive functions of sexual fantasy, as well as the types of problems that can emerge when the contents and employment of sexual fantasies strongly conflicts with a person's goals and values.
Maltz developed theories and techniques for addressing sexual fantasy concerns and healing unwanted sexual fantasies. During the mids, with the growing proliferation of high-speed Internet pornography, Maltz began seeing increasing numbers of people in her therapy practice who were suffering from pornography-related problems.
This occurrence led her to research and study how accessible, on-demand pornography was impacting sexuality and relationships, and what interventions were helpful to individuals and couples if they were experiencing negative consequences from using pornography. Maltz and her husband, Larry Maltz, coauthored a sexual recovery book entitled, The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography, which describes serious porn-related problems, such as pornography addiction and intimate relationship concerns, and provides strategies and techniques for effectively addressing them.
And in December it became available in a Polish translation by Media Rodzina. A search for representations of love-based sexual intimacy in the late s led Maltz to compile and edit two anthologies of erotic poetry, Passionate Hearts: The Poetry of Sexual Love and Intimate Kisses: The Poetry of Sexual Pleasure Is there a difference?
And the process, in a lot of ways is going to be pretty much the exact same process. Making that person feel safe, connecting with them and letting them know that they have value and that what happened in the past, does not in any way impact how you feel about them. Yes, and it does not have to define them. I hear some kind of quote once. I say that all the time because I see it in the counselling, with what couples are able to accomplish, when people really care about each other, and they convey feelings of respect and compassion.
Wendy has a great website healthysex. If you go to her website, she has a program called Relearning Touch Healing Techniques for couples. The key to success is not very specific. I think that there are different channels of success but I think to have it all, if you will.
This has been one of my aim on my journey of success is to have it all. To make sure I have good reputation, and that I protect that and the day of the internet where the internet never forgets whatever you say can be construed and pushed against you.
We got to be very careful to protect our names and our reputation. And then, my physical health, on top of that, my finances. Together, those kinds of things really make up my success and really help in defining the key to success. You can tell it. Mere being wealthy is not the key to success. Thank so much for coming on the show Wendy. Sexual trauma and relationships after abuse are such an important topics for us to discuss.
How do we have relationships after abuse and sexual trauma? In this interview with Wendy Maltz, an internationally recognized author, sex therapist and a licensed clinical social worker, she talks about sexual trauma and relationships after abuse.
And how partners can help us recover from negative experiences. How do we have deep relationships after abuse? If you have experienced sexual trauma and want to deepen your relationships after abuse: Find safe people to talk with Break that silence. Be available. Have a positive energy. Applaud small steps. Welcome Wendy. Wendy Maltz Thank you for having me. Kamala Chambers What do you find the most helpful to help people start to find healing from sexual trauma and in relationships after abuse?
Luis Congdon As a male I would want to defend my partner or go back in the past or find that person who did it and beat them up or make them feel some sort of pain. Is that true in your experience? Kamala Chambers When I was a teenager, I was raped and I had a boyfriend who found out about it and he attacked the guy and ended up getting bitten by a dog while he was attacking the guy who did this to me.
I felt more shame around him doing that. Wendy Maltz So keeping that focus on what is the survivor experiencing and what is she needing in terms of help to actually overcome sexual trauma in her relationships after abuse. Wendy Maltz Being able to relearn touch. I would love to hear from both of you. It really is being able to be present, positive and encouraging. Kamala Chambers I absolutely love everything you just said and completely agree with it. Kamala Chambers Wow. Wendy Maltz Yes, and it does not have to define them.